The life and times of...Man

...the average man are fret with danger. From back stabbing co-workers to girlfriends and wives to children and strangers on the street. The average man has to make decisions on a whim that in some cases can mean life or death.

Does he take that co-work's word as truth or does he question it? Both having their own risks from being successful or falling on your face and getting your tail in a ringer.

Does he make that dash through the yellow light or slam on the breaks to stop in time? Again both having risks from not getting a ticket from a cop that is right there to getting t-boned. All to make sure he is ontime for work or the date.

How about that choice of answering the significant other on the new outfit? Does he say they look great or does he say it doesn't look great? Again the risk of being right that they look good in it and everyone else does too or saying they don't look good to be faced with the relentless remarks of he thinks they are over weight, don't like the clothes or the dreaded "I'm not going then becasue I have nothing to wear that looks good...maybe I'll just wear the burlap sack in the garage" And the other risk of saying they look good just to find out that other people think they look like crap - then he was just saying what they wanted to hear and not the truth.

How about the choice to do what he wants to do for himself like sit at the computer or work in the yard or in the garage? If he chooses to do that he has the risk of being called selfish and not wanting to spend time with the other half or the family. But by not getting the time he wants for himself he is loosing himself and his individuality.

Truth of the matter is the average man doesn't know if he is comming or going. He wants to be helpful and supportive. He wants to do the right thing and doesn't want to hurt anyones feelings. He wants to go to work, do his job and bring home a paycheck. He wants to spend time with his family and not worry about how clothes look or going to garage sales or even to the grocery store. It's not being lazy it's just doing what he wants to do. It's the man having a chance to be himself and follow his interests. It's the man being a man and getting that self time that others seem to get but he does not.

Don't blame a man for wanting those things. He's a man, always was and always will be. Without slamming men - they are simple creatures and un-complicated. They are always there to help and will do what ever it takes to get things done. But give them a chance to be a man and let them have thier own time and own interests and he will be there when you need him.